So in tonight's blog post I wanted to dig in a little more to the inspiration behind my upcoming event, OWNING IT, being held at The Flour Factory on Thursday May 4th. The key theme of the night is self confidence, and in a nutshell how to give yourself permission to succeed and get out of your own way!
Part of the inspiration for the event has come from some of my incredible clients. There's a couple in particular that have really stuck with me, in that they have everything it takes to succeed in business - creativity, intelligence, drive and a fantastic business - but lack that all-important self belief. I can provide all the business tools and education in the world, but if they don't believe that they are going to (or worse, deserve to) succeed, there's sadly very little I can do.
It's a topic I've been mulling over for some time. I have often wondered what the difference is between people that are simply more willing to give things a crack than others - and that are able to push aside the self doubt and back themselves to rise to the challenge that lies ahead. I have my own ideas - and I'll go into them a little more in a minute - but I've always wondered what the 'official' word is on this. As in, is there something universal that can be attributed to the fact that some people have less fear and self doubt than others?
It's been during the planning process of OWNING IT that I have come across a concept known as the 'confidence gap'. In this fantastic article written by Margie Warrell, I discovered that there is in fact a universal gap between men and women in the area of confidence and self belief. Research conducted across 48 countries and almost 1 million people shows there is a significant difference in how men and women see themselves, and consequently how comfortable they are with risk and backing themselves to succeed. And interestingly, the difference in the industrialised Western countries such as Australia or the US was even greater than in the developing, non-Western countries.
I mean the data isn't that surprising - odds are if you're a woman, you would be agreeing with this from the perspective of your own experiences and the experiences of those around you. Whilst I think of myself as a fairly self confident person, I've certainly had highs and lows in my own self-belief over the years, both in my personal and professional life. And I know plenty of women that still, despite on paper having absolutely NO reason to doubt their own abilities, in their 30's or 40's are struggling with their self esteem.
Probably the single biggest factor I attribute to my own self confidence is goal setting. Goal setting has not only been instrumental in both my personal and professional life, it is something I have seen work time and time again with my coaching clients. The power of emotionally connecting to a goal, and chasing down that goal over weeks, months and even years is incredibly powerful, and something I have used personally since my childhood. The result of achieving something you set out to do is so much more than just the achievement itself - it's the self confidence and the knowledge that because you've done it once, you can do it again. And over the years you become more and more comfortable with being uncomfortable - with deliberately pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone in order to grow and succeed.
I can't wait to share more of my own personal experiences alongside some of Perth's most inspiring women, and I would love you to come along with your friends, sisters, colleagues, clients. I'm truly passionate about empowering other women to go after everything they want in life and business, and stop holding themselves back. I am so delighted to be working with the incredible Kerrie Allen from #GameFace to produce the event, and Kerrie will be joined on our panel by Kirstin Bouse and Vanessa Thiele, two of Perth's most dynamic and experiences psychologists. And did I mention there's champagne and canapes? It's going to be a fabulous night - would love to see you there! x
OWNING IT: Finding your confidence to get out of your own way is being held at The Flour Factory, Perth, on Thursday 4th May. Tickets are $119 and include champagne, canapes and much more - head here for more information & to grab your tickets.